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Feeling authentic in a relationship comes from being able to be your best self, not your actual self
Christian Jarrett 文
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Feeling authentic in a relationship – that is, feeling like you are able to be yourself, rather than acting out of character – is healthy, not just for the relationship, but for your wellbeing in general. This makes sense: after all, putting on a fake show can be exhausting. But dig a little deeper and things get more complicated because there are different ways to define who “you” really are.
在一段关系中感到真诚——也就是说,感觉你能够成为你自己,而不是显得很有个性——这是健康的,不仅仅是为了关系,而是为了你的健康。这是有意义的:毕竟,带着假面具表演会让人筋疲力尽。但若是挖深一点的话,事情就会变得更复杂,因为有不同的方法来定义真的“你”是怎样的。
Is the real you how you actually think and behave, for instance? Or, taking a more dynamic perspective, is it fairer to say that the true you is the person you aspire to be: what psychologists call your “ideal self”?