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自恋型人格障碍2 - 愤怒,内疚和羞耻

mints2014-3-15 14:48
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自恋型人格障碍 - 愤怒,内疚和羞耻

大家好,感谢再次观看本视频的第二部分,这次我选择女演员安娜的形象,你们不觉得这个系列的评论是为了试图去理解和/或恢复自恋型人格障碍的痊愈么?

在我的第一个视频中,我们讨论了一些专业的共识。自恋能力的恢复需要考虑的条件,让自恋者有一丝希望,以便获得觉醒、并与NPT斗争。

在这个新的视频中,我们将讨论最大的障碍——将自恋的人从一个健康人的情感与行为中区分出来。

很难去夸大这些因素的重要性,所以请原谅我,因为我试图进入细节,你看到了么,他们说自恋的人没有真实的人格。

我正好分享了这个观点,很专业的,自恋者长期否认不必要的情绪,那是她真实人格的一部分,已经到了如此的程度——她和真实的她失去了联系,并建构了一个假的自我,为了保护她自己,不去感受她真实的人格所经历的那些痛苦的情感。

为了引出本视频的主要议题,从NPD恢复的最大障碍,就是承认并充分处理这些无用的感情,也就是愤怒、羞愧和内疚。通过自恋虐待,大家已经知道,让他们的同伴感受到羞愧、内疚, 这些是全部主要特征和压倒性的主题。

自恋资深者认为,自恋的缘由是被称之为投射的过程,失去整合的个体简单的将他的情绪向外发包给他的伙伴,因为他们没有内在的处理能力。

虽然它是很难去理解,当你主观自恋虐待的时候,我相信自恋者并不享受此时他们对你的行为。

良好的感受,他们唯一的好的感受是,从铺天盖地的(内部聚集着愤怒的)羞耻中体验到的一个简短的救赎。 一旦他们放下这个不知情的受害者,就会有个霎那间的启示,然后是更加的羞愧和内疚,以及对于那些——他们现在不得不去掩盖的行为。否认并合理化的远离它们。因为这个过程来自于无意识层面 ,这种失去连接的感觉,似乎你的生活正在失控,你对此一无所知,作为一个自恋的人,为什么没有一丁点儿的乐趣?同时,网络作家经常迷恋其中并讲述这个主题,在他们经历过了自恋虐待之后。

请不要误会我的意思,我知道自恋者所要经历是多么可怕的痛苦。但故事的另一面是,痛苦虐待和失整合的人应对了大量的不可逾越的痛苦,通过这唯一的方式,他知道如何通过放弃他真实的自我,来接受那些起初已经被指定的人格。于是被请求操纵他人,给别人想要的,大多数情况下那个稍纵即逝的至少安全的感觉。

该视频的主要观点是,为了让自恋者试图找回,并触摸他真实的自我,他首先要与难以置信的大量的、充满着愤怒的羞愧和内疚一起工作。这一过程的关键是 ,在修通的过程中,完完全全的、非评判的对待你自己。

大多对你有兴趣的人会指望你一些行为,基于他们所看到的,一个所谓的完全独立发展的独立个体。因为,无法去处理很多心智上的疾病并把握内心的心锚。

你所处的现实是,你是自己唯一的上帝,你曾经缺少这些好的条件。这取决于您:由于你现在是一个成年人了,与长期被遗忘的、被忽视的不公平部分接触并重新与之连接;以下,也由你来决定:其他人从未片刻的理解过你内心的想法,在面对他们铺天盖地的要求时,支持自己、站在自己的立场、保护自己。

你之前进行的游戏,充满了对这些人的考虑,在他们想要看到的前方呈现了一个虚假的部分,当然,对于游戏并隐瞒内部的挣扎,需要太多的能量和时间才能将其扯掉。因此你难免紧扣在哪儿,为了破坏这种连接,并立刻重新开始,你现在必须取舍,你可以继续前进,承认或透露您有一个更复杂的内心远景,你曾经让任何人看到,表明你会聚集大量的资源去尝试重建你的内在的人格。玛丽指挥你的能量、你的时间、你的才能,朝着这个目标,你将会让那些人失望,他们相信你的伪装,现在不得不回到你的身边。

那个人是你,投资于你的人格成长,在你真实的生活中,并让其超越那些可怕的伤害,之前在他人的要求下,后来是你自己去奉行的伤害,你经常传递给那些关心你的人。即使痛苦和耻辱似乎是不可逾越的,你还是会好起来的,尝试你的人性是非常值得的。

谢谢你的收听,我期待着您的问题和意见。虽然我尽我所能去讲清楚,我想我有时只是一个有点混乱,请让我知道,如果你有同样的感觉,我会很乐意澄清,无论是在私人邮件或意见以及未来视频,再次感谢并有自己一个很棒的日子,再见。

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0RQxm3y5yM

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讲述:Melody Mine

翻译:陈明

Narcissistic Personality Disorder - rage, guilt and shame

0:00hello again thank you for viewing my second video
0:03this time I'm a better choice up the actress Anna set
0:06don't you think this series of videos are for those who are trying to
0:11understand
0:11and/or recover from narcissistic personality disorder
0:15for NPD for short
0:17in my first video we discussed the consensus have professionals on
0:21narcissus ability to recover and which conditions are necessary in order for a
0:25narcissist to have even a slight chance to gain awareness and beat npt
0:30in this new video we will talk about the biggest obstacle that separates
0:34a narcissist from feeling and behaving like a healthy person
0:37it is hard to overstate the importance of this factor
0:41and so please bear with me as I tried to go into the detail
0:44you see it is often said that a narcissist does not have a true
0:48personality
0:49I happened to share the view professionals who state that a
0:52narcissist
0:53has long denied unwanted emotions that are a part of her true personality to
0:57the extent that she has disconnected from her true self and constructed a
1:01false one in order to protect herself from feeling the pain that her true
1:05personality has been experiencing
1:07so that brings us to the main topic this video
1:10the biggest obstacles to recovery from NPD is acknowledging and fully
1:14processing those unwanted feelings
1:16namely rage shame and guilt everyone has been through narcissistic abuse will
1:21tell you that making their partner feel shamed
1:24guilty and subject to overwhelming major all hallmarks
1:28have a narcissist professionals argue that this is due to a process called
1:33projection where disordered individuals simply outsources
1:36his feelings on his partner because they have no ability to process them
1:40internally
1:41although it is hard to get when you are the subjective narcissistic abuse
1:45I believe narcissus neither enjoy now feel good about their behavior towards
1:49you
1:50the only good sensation they experience is a brief relief from overwhelming
1:55guilt
1:56shame in rage buildup inside of them once they have
2:00unloaded that on an unsuspecting victim there is a fleeting moment
2:04revelation followed by more shame and guilt for having behave that way that
2:08they now have to cover up
2:10deny and rationalize away because this process is are going on unconscious
2:15level
2:16it constantly feels like your life is spinning out of control and you have no
2:20idea why
2:21it is definitely no fun being a narcissist and this is a point often
2:25lost on online authors who are speaking out on the subject after having been
2:29through narcissistic abuse
2:31please don't get me wrong I know how horrible it is to be subjected to the
2:35pain that a narcissist will put you through
2:37but there is also another side of the story the one of a pain
2:41abuse and disordered individual who has coped with insurmountable amounts of
2:45pain with the only way he knew how
2:48by giving up his true self and taking on a personality that was designed to first
2:52please and then manipulate others and giving him what he wanted
2:55which is in most cases attention acknowledgment
2:58a fleeting sense of security anyway the main point of this video is that in
3:03order for a narcissist to try and get back in touch with his true self he
3:07first has to work so unbelievable amounts have stored
3:10anger shame and guilt the key to this process
3:14is being totally non-judgmental to yourself when going through the process
3:18yes most people who are interacting with you expect certain kinds of behavior
3:22based on what they see
3:24namely fully developed in a villa dealt however
3:27as with many mental illnesses the fail to grasp the inner landscape
3:32you're in a reality of which you were the one and only Lord
3:35for the lack of a better term it is up to you to reach an reconnect to the
3:39parts of you who have been long forgotten
3:41and neglected unfair as it is because you now an adult
3:46it is also up to you to support yourself stand your ground and protect yourself
3:50from overwhelming demands have other people
3:53who do not for a moment understand what is going on inside the view
3:57the game that you played before consisted of filling those people and
4:00putting up a false front of what they wanted to see
4:03of course to game and concealing the internal struggle required way too much
4:08energy to pull off for too long and so you inevitably snapped
4:12there for damaging the connection and having to start over
4:16now you have an alternative you can go ahead and admit
4:19or reveal that you have a much more complicated inner landscape that you had
4:23ever let anyone see
4:25proclaim that you are going to have to pull a lot of resources together to try
4:29and rebuild your inner personality
4:31and that Mary directing your energy your time your abilities toward that goal
4:36you are going to have to disappoint people who have believed in your
4:40masquerade and now going to have to come in terms with new home to you
4:44it is your investment in your personal grown in your authentic life that will
4:48transcend all the horrible hurt that you have been pursued by others
4:51and later by yourself and that you so often passed on to others who were cared
4:57for you most
4:58even if the pain and shame seem to be insurmountable
5:01you still will be better off for trying in your human nature is very well worth
5:05it
5:06thank you for listening I am looking forward to your questions and comments
5:10though I try my best to be clear
5:12I think I can be just a bit confusing at times
5:16please let me know if you feel the same way and I will be happy to clarify
5:20either in private message or in comments and future videos
5:24thanks again and have yourself a great day goodbye



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